Speaking Spontaneously

Two kinds of people: PUSHERS and PULLERS.  Pushers always have words inside them, like bottomless Pez dispenser.  Pullers have to pull the words out of themselves, much like an undesirable object in a puppy’s mouth.  Whether it is after being called on for Table Topics at a Toastmasters meeting or after you’ve responded to a question in a business meeting, pushers and pullers alike are critical of their responses.  A puller will inevitably THINK, “I wish I would have said THIS instead!”.  Since a pusher says what they are thinking, they might think, “I wish I had thought of something else to say”.  What does a pusher say (since I am not a pusher)?  We are on a growth journey and none of us arrives instantaneously.  So don’t be too hard on yourself – expect failure along the way.  In either case, both categories can benefit from the following strategy for speaking spontaneously:

 

  1. PRE-LOAD : Fill your tank ahead of time and tie the question to what is on your mind (reading, experience, thoughts and ideas, etc.); what we value and are familiar with affects what we believe about life (positive spin). demonstrate

 

  1. PLUNGE : Pause and start slow and turn the question over in your mind and talk about the question as you develop the body of your question.  Ask good rhetorical questions about the question; analyze it.   demonstrate

 

  1. POINTS : there are several things I’d like to say about that…; 1,2,3 points; contrast: this –vs- that; plus/minus; tie into what is on your mind; tell a story; positive spin – how does the question relate to your values/experience? demonstrate

 

  1. PUNCH : summarize; when inspired, end with a wow! (quote, wit, declaration, let some dynamics fly!, etc.) demonstrate

 

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